"Will I have another kid?"
This was a question I was asked during one of the first in-person readings I ever gave.
I remember being a little dumbfounded. I hadn’t ever considered “Will I have another kid?” to be anything that someone would ask a tarot reader.
So, when she asked, I said: “Uh….do you want to?”
She said "yes." I drew a card. Looked at it. I still remember it. Four of Pentacles.
And I said: “If you have three kids now, then there’s a good chance you’ll get your fourth.” Except not nearly so clearly or succinctly or confidently. Like I said, this was one of the first times I was reading for someone in front of me.
A few months later I could see that she was pregnant, and I felt pretty good about the whole thing! Like…wow, it’s that easy to predict pregnancy, yeah?
Flash forward to now. My husband and I are working on starting a family.
You’d think that I’d have an advantage in knowing when it’s going to happen, but that’s not exactly how it’s turning out. I read for myself on the matter because I read for myself on anything and everything.
Here’s what I’ve discovered…for some people it’s complicated.
Through the dichotomy of having read for someone for whom getting pregnant was a piece of cake, and reading for myself (someone for whom getting pregnant is a little bit more complicated) - I've realized that it's not the subject matter that's necessarily sensitive. It's the individual person's relationship to that subject matter.
And this is how it is with everyone, on one subject or another.
For some people, getting a certain job is way more tied up in soul stuff than it is in finding a new relationship. Predicting the course of their career would require weekly readings of 10+ cards.
For other people, relationships of the heart are way more complicated (timeline/person/situation-wise) than job stuff. Telling them when their soulmate is going to come along is useless, because it’s so tangled in their personal development, other people, and the stars aligning.
And that’s where a pregnancy question (or in reality, any question) gets tricky.
It’s not the subject matter that’s inherently tricky. I believe it’s a matter of how complicated the subject is for that client.
And when you encounter a client with soul-stuff making a part of their life complicated, then that requires compassion, a delicate touch, and way more “how” and “what” rephrasings of the question. It's important that readers and seekers alike understand that while some things are written in the stars, other stages in our lives are more like paintings-in-progress, where there are many artists involved, each adding their colors to the canvas, improvising on each other's work as they go.
The more artists involved, the harder it is to predict the outcome. Though you may desire more certainty, the trade-off is inspiration, and the beauty of co-creation.