You’re open to the universe, your guides, your intuition, and your psychic clair-abilities. It’s great! Not only is your life enhanced by all of the energetic and spiritual knowledge that’s flowing to you, but it’s also giving you insight and information on other people that you meet! With this newfound information, it’s exciting to share what you know with the people in your life, and even strangers, right?
Hold on just a second.
I’m reminded of a pertinent quote from one of my favorite stand-up comedians.
“We're science: we're all about coulda, not shoulda.” - Patton Oswalt ("The Miracle of Childbirth", on Werewolves and Lollipops)
Or, to put it another way:
Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should.
This phrase is applicable in any area of your life where you might wield a certain level of power, or knowledge. It’s especially true when you start picking up on information from Spirit about other people.
In fact, many terrible scenarios, both in fiction and in real life, are born out of someone not considering the "should" part of the equation.
I wrote this article not to suggest that you should never share spontaneous information and messages you receive. Rather, I ask that you consider the following points before you stop someone in the street with some information about their personal life, or message someone online with your revelations.
1. It’s probably not your responsibility to share the information.
Spirit could just as easily have given this information to the subject of it in another way. If someone isn't open enough to receive a message via their own intuition, the universe and their guides have other ways of showing them the sign posts. Consider that the information you were given might be for you, and you alone.
2. If you feel that it is your responsibility, then at least give the subject a say in whether or not they want to receive the message.
I’m talking consent here. Even if you’re a brilliant psychic, or medium, and you feel deep down in your bones that this person would want the information, there’s no need to assume. Always ask. It’s polite. It's respectful. And it doesn't hurt anyone to ask.
This is especially important if the subject is a near stranger, but it’s also important if you’re dealing with friends and family. Unless you have an explicit open-door policy with them, where they know, accept, and approve of you feeding them messages, then just ask!
3. Check your Ego.
Why do you want to share this information? Do you want validation? Do you feel that you’re being helpful? If thinking about giving the message you received to its subject fills you either with a swelling sense of pride, or if it would validate a negative impression that you have of that person, then stop right there.
Your motivation in sharing the message is just as important as the message itself.
I’ve been on both sides of this equation. I’ve been approached by someone who used what they saw in my energetic body as a way of justifying a personal attack. I’ve received information about good friends, and asked them if they wanted to hear it before throwing it at them. I’ve also received information about someone I didn’t know very well, and chosen (thankfully) to keep my mouth shut. Sure, I could’ve said to them: “Hey, you’re breaking up with your partner, right? Spirit told me. I’m sorry.” But who would that have served? The person in question would have felt an invasion of privacy, and beyond that…it doesn’t matter what I would have felt or gained. To tell the truth, I was tempted to ask them if the message I received was true. I understand the temptation! In the end I resisted because it felt wrong to broach that subject with someone I wasn't close with.
As it turned out, the message was validated in time, and I didn't have to go scaring anyone in the process.
Of course, if “do no harm” is not in your personal code or worldview, then you can ignore this entire article and do as you wish, but for anyone on the fence…please, think about how you use your abilities.