Even though my path has bent heavily towards providing readings in the past, it’s now moving (perhaps course correcting) towards a more holistic approach. I recently announced that I was open again as a coach, but truthfully this coaching is under a healing umbrella.
As I step out more into this role, I find that there are some concepts that need to be talked about. And the first one that comes to mind (and experience) is the idea that tapping a healer to help you (I.e. heal you) will fix the problem/issue/hurt immediately.
In my experience, this is false.
Sarah Petruno puts it pretty perfectly in this article but I’m compelled to add my own thoughts and anecdotes.
Healing, in whatever form it takes (whether it’s emotional, spiritual or physical) necessitates a certain amount of sucking out the poison, so to speak.
- You can’t move past a traumatic experience unless you confront it, and hold yourself with compassion.
- You can’t heal a broken bone without setting it.
- You can’t recover from the flu without coughing up some phlegm.
(Okay, I took a little poetic license with those examples, but I think you get the point.)
There is a pattern in healing.
1. First there’s the experience, the root cause that creates the illness or disease. Sometimes that’s innocuous, seemingly invisible, sometimes it hurts like hell.
2. Then there’s the manifestation of that illness. This is almost always unpleasant, and it’s usually at this point that we realize we don’t really want this kind of pain or suffering in our lives. The pain and discomfort is a signal that something is wrong.
3. Finally there’s the healing work. Often, we need to cut something away from ourselves, other times we may have to bear the nausea, chills, or depression as our bodies, hearts, and minds work to remove what we’re ready to let go.
And the experience of each step tends to be painful. Why?
Why can’t a salve just soothe a burn, mend the skin, and then we get to go on our merry way?
I believe it’s because the big wounds, the ones that shape our paths and propel our learning, those are too big to get a little ointment, a bandaid, and that’s it. If it was as easy as getting a bandaid (which is how many people tend to look at alternative healing) then what would we have learned? Not to do the thing that gave us the wound in the first place?
No. That’s not enough. That works for little things, sure. Don’t touch the stove…you’ll burn yourself.
But we’re here to learn the big things.
- Like how to love ourselves, and be confident in our worth.
- How to establish boundaries between ourselves and the things or people that hurt us.
- How to love others without fear, and how to care for each other.
All of these lessons are more deeply rooted than one mis-step. They need more of our attention and intent.
If you seek out alternative healing to recover from past trauma, or a negative and recurring pattern, just know that the healer’s role in this is not to help you understand your lesson instantly, effortlessly, and painlessly.
Certainly it’s my goal to take away as much of the pain as possible. But more than anything, my role is to (we’re going to continue the metaphor…) bring your attention to where there is infection, to prescribe the right medicines, and to speed the healing along.
After a healing session it will almost always feel as if you’ve hit a low point. You may encounter in greater frequency the memories and shadows of events that have contributed to your current illness or issue. This isn’t because you’re meant to suffer. It’s temporary. It’s necessary. It’s because you are meant to heal.
What no longer serves you needs to be removed before it can be replaced with light.
No one gets a free pass in learning their soul lessons, but you can get extra support and guidance. I am here to help.