There will be times when something needs to change in your life, and the Universe is ready to oblige.
It may be that there’s a lesson you need to learn, a shift that needs to take place, or a change in your circumstances that is overdue.
These evolutions are not always nice. They don’t always feel good. Sometimes, in the necessary process, other people will do or say things to you that bring you to your knees. You will be attacked, perhaps physically, perhaps emotionally, perhaps spiritually - however it all plays out, one thing is clear.
The Shit Has Hit The Fan. AndohmygodIjustwanttocurlupanddie.
This little guide has been put together to help you deal with those events in your life.
1) Practical Solutions Come First.
Strap yourself in, I’m going to use a lot of metaphor here. I can’t help it.
In the immediate aftermath of this blitzkrieg on your physical, emotional, and spiritual self, you’re going to have to do some triage. Pull out the shrapnel. If it hurts really bad, then scream. Cry. But for the love of kittens get out the gauze and the salves. Your first duty to yourself is to take inventory, and try to fix the damage as much as possible. Depending on what has gone down, you may need to make phonecalls, write emails, take a cab, or give an apology. Paperwork might be involved. I don’t know. But you will. Essentially - take care of business.
This includes being pissed off, or heartbroken, or bewildered. Do your best not to squash your initial reaction. Temper it, if need be, so you don’t make a bad situation worse, but in your own personal space...let it run its course. I can’t stress how important this is. Get. Mad. Trying to immediately release emotions like these is just asking for them to boomerang back. They’re only going to go when you really are ready to let them go.
If there’s time, and you find that crystals help you, grab this Oh-Shit Combo. It’s what’ I turn to when I just. Can’t. Handle it. When there’s so much negativity in the air and around the situation that I feel like I’ll suffocate. Keeping these crystals nearby, looking at them, holding them, it helps to take the sting off. Seriously, feel free to put this image as your desktop background. It might help.
Black tourmaline for managing all that negative crap, tiger’s eye to help support your confidence. Black tourmaline AGAIN because you probably need to double up on keeping the low-vibration elements away from you. Blue calcite for soothing calm. Fluorite, to me, feels like a feather duster. Black tourmaline is the Dyson, but you need Fluorite to get in the nooks and crevices and clean out the nasty negative dust.
Drink some water. Stay hydrated - I promise it makes a difference.
2) Everything is Still Pretty Awful...But Now I Just Want to Feel Better. How to Cope With the Aftershocks.
Very few traumatic or troubling events happen all at once, and then are finished. There are usually ripples. During that time, your duty is to continue dealing with the practical things while taking care of yourself so that you are as close to 100% as you possibly can be. The goal is to be balanced again. You don’t have to be crazy-cheerful-joyous, just happy enough and balanced enough that living isn’t a chore.
Step 1) FORGIVE.
Start with yourself. Own up to what you did to make this happen. Say it out loud, or in your mind. “I forgive you” - directed at yourself. If you don’t feel immediately better after this, then do it again. Mean it.
Step 2) FORGIVE AGAIN.
This time, forgive the person that you perceive as the antagonizer. You don’t have to forgive them in-person, you can do it in your mind just as you did it for yourself. Say: “I forgive you for hurting me.” Try not to get too specific and vindictive with something like: “I forgive you for backstabbing me and ruining my life and making me feel like a loser” ‘cause that’s not sincere. You need to actually forgive them. Again, you should absolutely feel some relief after this. If you don’t, then it’s a sign that you’re probably not done with draining the wound. You may have some anger that you need to sit with awhile longer. Or some more tears to shed. Do it, and when you feel better come back to this step.
Step 3) Repeat steps 1 and 2.
Whenever you start to feel down, that’s your sign that you need to let something go. Forgive, forgive, forgive.
Step 4) Apologize.
To yourself. To the antagonizer. To the president (or whoever). To the system that was set in place that screwed you over. Even if you did nothing wrong, just trust me here and apologize. “I am sorry for whatever I have done to contribute to this present condition.”
Step 5) Get happy.
This is perhaps the toughest part, but it should also be pretty rewarding. Go out and get your comfort food. Give yourself permission to allow a pizza, wings, and ice cream feast to lighten your mood. Watch that movie that makes you cry, or laugh hysterically. Play a videogame. Go for a walk. Channel your pain into your art. Whatever your favorite activity is...do it. This is the point where you take practical and real-world steps to bringing up your mood so that you’re not standing there like a sad lump of clay, getting molded into something even sadder, and lumpier. No...YOU need to mold yourself into what you want to be. Strong. Confident. Persistent. Happy. And ice cream is just one of the many paths that can get you there.
But also, remember this: Crutches are okay when you’re limping, but there will come a point (and you’ll know it when you get there) that you have to drop those crutches (the ice cream and pizza...you following along here?) and decide that you are bound and determined not to let this crap get you down any longer. Recovering yourself is going to come from YOU...not the ice cream. Unfortunately.
Step 6) If Crystals are your thing, try this.
My cleanup-on-aisle-six combo. Mangano Calcite for really gentle healing vibes. Green calcite to bring that fresh feeling into your heart - that feeling that you get when the day was shit, but you see something beautiful and you can’t help but feel that everything is going to be okay. Lithium quartz. To me, it has a numbing quality, that I think should help ease the pain. Like a tylenol. Lepidolite, to spark those deeper seeds of joy that need help growing. And amethyst, which is my go-to when I feel that I need protection, or a shield.
Step 7) Try some color therapy.
Eat, wear, look at, and surround yourself with a color that makes you feel better. I have a few recommendations…
Heartache? Something in a pink or green. Browse. Feel it out.
Took a blow to your self-esteem? Orange. Yellow. Every shade in-between.
Experiment and go with your gut on this one.
Change your desktop background, look for fruits and vegetables in the color that supports you, and raid your wardrobe for clothing and accessories that highlight how you want to feel.
Lastly, DRINK SOME WATER. At every step of this process, you should be drinking water. Water can relieve physical pain, it can help to straighten unbalanced emotions, and it helps energy to flow. If you're all dried up like the desert, then your energy like your blood is just going to seep around like sludge. Please, keep hydrated.
And that’s it. I may come back and add more information if something strikes me, but you get the gist.
Wishing you love, light, and happiness as you move through whatever trial you’re in.