Solving Problems Without Spiritual Help

For a long time I had a tarot deck, but I didn’t use it. For about seven years I would have an issue, or some problem that I could have used help with, and I would think about the deck and say to myself: No.

I can figure this out myself.

I’m not sure what exactly makes me do this, because I do still do it. It’s not quite so bad anymore, but it’s still a part of me. In any case, my point is that sometimes you just don’t want to turn to the cards (your own, or someone else’s) for help.

Sometimes the shit is hitting the fan and there’s just too much of it, and you need to call the cleaners but oh-my-god-you-are-so-overwhelmed. If talking it out with a friend isn’t an option, then I hope you’ll consider this method that I sometimes use.

It’s inspired by the Abraham-Hicks book “The Amazing Power of Deliberate Intent: Living the Art of Allowing"

Here is what I do.

Step 1: Write down your worries.

Rather than letting them swirl around in your head like litter in a subway, pin them down! They’ll be less scary when they’re just words on a page.


  • I am worried about my Mother.

  • I am worried about the health of my cat.

  • I am worried about paying my bills this month.

Step 2: For each worry, answer these questions

1. First impression, honest impression - should you / can you get involved? 

2. What will your involvement do, or not do?

If you should get involved, answer A1-A2.

If you shouldn't get involved, answer B1-B3. 

A1. If you are not getting involved, what will you do instead?

A2. Who/what can help you do this?

B1. If you could or should get involved, what will you do?

B2. Who/what can help you do this?

B3. When will you do this?

3. What is the desired end result?


  • I am worried about the health of my cat.

I can and should get involved.

My involvement could help her to get healthy again.

I am going to research her symptoms. I am going to set up an appointment with the vet tomorrow.

My best friend knows good vets in the area, she can make a recommendation to help me find a vet.

I will do this tomorrow after work.

If I do this, it will be a start towards getting my cat healthy again.

Step 3: Reflect, relax, and stick to the plan.

The key is to take things in bite-size pieces. When you break a worry or problem down into manageable parts, the whole thing should become less overwhelming.

And I recommend approaching this exercise with a nice hot beverage (tea, cocoa, coffee, whatever is your preference), a lit candle, and some music that makes you feel calm.

Everything is manageable.