I was working with my Earthbound Oracle deck tonight and stumbled on this card which I could swear I've never seen before. It triggered a memory that I've been meaning to share.
I have a really strong memory of one Thanksgiving when I was a child. I was very excited because it meant driving to my Grandparent's house for a big dinner and lots of people. And when we drove through the dark, and the woods, I became impatient for Christmas, realizing that it was actually finally time for Thanksgiving, so I asked my mother a question. I asked her when it would be Christmas time, and she gave me an answer that then prompted me to ask several more regarding how she knew it was time for each holiday. She didn't give me dates, she gave me seasonal markers. These days, the explanations that she gave me still run through my head like this...
"When will it be Halloween? When all the leaves have turned.
When will it be Thanksgiving? When all the leaves have fallen.
When will it be Christmas? When there's snow on the ground."
And I know this doesn't work for everyone, but where I grew up (and still live) this is a pretty accurate estimation, especially in kid-time, and with kid-logic. These days I don't technically celebrate Christmas, but I do honor the season and acknowledge the Solstice with gifts to friends and loved ones. Still, there's something about these explanations that I unabashedly love.
I bring up this little memory because it's a fond one. And the holiday season is officially here. For a lot of people this means family. It's struggles, conflict, some good stuff, but also a lot of drama. The holidays don't have this reputation for nothing.
But back to this card. It reminded me of that pleasant memory I have, and it also reminded me of my Grandmother who passed away about nine years ago. When I was a kid we were very close. We often went for walks up and down the street, collecting acorns, picking flowers. She would sing Latvian songs to me. I would ask her if we could bring home some pussy willow branches. If this sounds extra-super-sickeningly nostalgic then that's fair. It is.
That's important, though. Especially during this time of the year. Holidays were such...tense affairs growing up. In a lot of ways they still are. But I do have these little pinpoints of perfection I can hold on to.
I'm not going to tell you to treasure what time you have with your family. That's not fair. Some people have family in their lives that ought to rightly be cut out. There are too many intricacies and complexities for that sentiment to be applicable to everyone.
What I do want to say is that if you share a bond with someone, anyone, whether they're a friend or family member, then consider this your sign that it's time to honor it. The bond that's created between people over a single moment - or a lifetime - is not some fleeting thing that disappears when one half of the equation is gone. It lingers. It resonates.
If this resonates with you, make sure to share a kind word, a hug, a card, a text, something, anything. There's magic in these connections, and you would be surprised how they can sustain you even after the other person is gone.