I have a few questions for you. Don't worry, this isn't an interrogation. I'll be answering them, too.
Do you know what you bring to the people and the world around you?
Do you know what it's like to be in your element? What is your element?
Do you know which people are in your life to help you see, and love, the diversity of thought and expression?
I know that I have a calming presence for a lot of people. I know that by doing my best (to be kind, to pursue my goals, to be more complete than I was the day before) I sometimes inspire others to do the same.
I know that my element is at dinner tables with friends and family, in the kitchen with my husband, laughing so hard that I cry, out under the stars, and in dimly lit rooms with tea, candles, incense, and blank paper. My element necessitates a deck of tarot cards at hand, and three deep breaths so that I can see the Spirit who has been tapping me on the shoulder for the past twenty minutes.
I know that I struggle with some family members - not because they are bad people, but because there is fear or judgment in me that doesn't belong there. I know there are beautiful and talented women in my life because they perhaps need to be encouraged by me, and I perhaps need to see just how many paths are open to us all.
Finding your place is largely a matter of knowing how you're already there, and then letting yourself consciously and joyfully be in that space as often as possible. Everything else falls into line.
What you do for others, what your element looks and feels like, and the people you are surrounded with - those are clues that can help you realize not how to find your place, but how to inhabit it.